You Have To Do More Than God

One of the most exciting days in a man’s life is the wedding day. A day meant to lead to permanent union here on earth. Weddings are always filled with smiles, dances, songs, exchange of gifts and most importantly prayers from anointed men and women of God. However, it is unfortunate that quite a number of these celebrated weddings end up in a struggling and pitiful state. Then you wonder what happened to the ‘anointed prayers’ from men and women of God? At such times fingers are pointed at the devil, but in the actual sense the devil cannot do anything without man’s cooperation.

When it comes to marriage man (man or woman) has a lot to do to keep the union. The Lord told me that “man has more to do than Himself in KEEPING marriage together”. This may be difficult to swallow. It was, for me too until I searched the scripture to have a Bible based understanding.

So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let not man put asunder (separate)                                                                                                                                     

                                                                                         Matthew 19:6 (AMP)        

While I read Matthew 19:6 – ‘what God has joined together, let not man put asunder’. The Holy Spirit said look at it! The Bible said let no man put asunder NOT let no God put asunder. He further said that it is man that breaks marriage union not God. And that this is done through man’s (man or woman) attitudes/behaviours be it from couples or outsiders (in-laws, friends, neighbours etc). When I heard that, I understood that marriage is not all about prayers alone but there must be corresponding actions especially from couples for faith without works is death.

God has played a great role by bringing two people together as a couple, but couples have their own roles to play if they want to keep their union together. Hope you know that when your spouse annoys you what God can do is to tell u not to react. It simply means reacting or not reacting is your responsibility. There is a saying I was told. It says in marriage one should learn to act like a sheep when the other spouse is angry. The implication is that there cannot be two ‘goats’ at the same time. This is food for thought. It means a misbehaving spouse is considered to be a goat. I hope you are not one.

Always remember that you have more to do to keep your home. God has done the major one and He is still working (John 5:17) only if you cooperate with Him. Do not say prayer is enough. If you have to apologise to your spouse please go ahead. Tell him or her how wonderful he or she is. It will go a long way to strengthen the union. Or is it challenges? If yes, always remember this Yoruba adage that says ‘the scrotum of the goat is just shaking, it won’t fall off’. Definitely it won’t fall off. Hang on in that marriage; pray well but act right without delay by doing your responsibilities as written in the book of Ephesians 5:20-26. And never forget that keeping your marriage together is more of your responsibility than God’s.  We shall not fail in our responsibilities in Jesus’ name. Amen. SHALOM.