Marriage is a sacred institution ventured into physically,
emotionally and psychological by matured people. Once you say ‘Yes, I do’ it
means the journey into an unending race (except for death) has begun. It is
therefore expedient that the wise should be prepared for it.
For which of you,
intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost,
whether he has sufficient to finish it?
Luke 14:28
The challenges being faced in some marriages is because quite
a number of spouses did not ‘sit down first’. To ‘sit down first’ is to put
into consideration the kind of person you want to marry: the belief, behaviour
and background. Who is the person? Is he or she a child of God? If yes, are you
medically or in some cases intellectually compatible? These are questions that
need to be answered. Then ‘count the cost’. It means IF I go into marriage with
the said person, what are the expectations which could be the celebrations and
the challenges. It is important to note this because all marriages are packed
with both celebrations and challenges. The celebrations always start with the
wedding ceremony and the honeymoon. If care is not taken, the couple forget
that there are challenges ahead.
The issue of marriage is not what is done haphazardly or half
way. It is a God given assignment that must be FINISHED. Thus, it is only at
death that man finishes his/her God’s given assignment. Jesus only said “It is
finished” at the point of death (John 19:30) and same applies to marriage. This
is clearly stated in the marriage vows- Till death do us part. This is what it
means to finish God’s purpose for marriage. You do not ‘finish marriage’ when
you have given birth to children neither do you, because of sicknesses, lack or
fear of the unknown. That is why the Bible says, sit down first and count the
cost, and then ask yourself this question ‘Do I have sufficient means to finish
it?’
Is the person you want to get married to an agressive fellow?
Is he or she a violent person? If yes, do you have sufficient means to stay
together till death do you part? This is worth pondering on. Quite a number of
people have found themselves in this mess and do not know what to do. Others
have opted out of their marriages seeking temporary solutions.
However, it is not yet over, if you have found yourself in
such mess. God is a repairer of broken homes and emotions. The purpose of this
write up is to see God touch homes, as well as release His peace to such homes.
This write up is as a result of the burden I have from the Lord that quite a
number of people are in marital mess: Husbands and wives living like Cat and
Dog, while a few are separated and thinking of divorce. The solution is to hold
on; God will heal your homes in Jesus’ name. Amen. Let us believe God together
for the restoration of peace to homes.
Then Jesus said, “Come
to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you
rest. (NLT).
Matthew 11:28
The next two editions will also be on marriage and I know God
will do something. Shalom.
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